Long Distance Relationships
Before you can have a healthy relationship, you must spend ample time
so that things can work between the two of you. It takes a lot of
effort, patience, trust, respect, love, and communication even if you
are just a few miles away from each other. It can really be quite
difficult maintaining your relationship. But it is more difficult if you
and your partner are oceans apart. Most people say that a long distance
relationship will never get to work. However, there are couples that
have long distance relationship that are successful. Although it seems
impossible, long distance relationships do exist.
Before you start a long distance relationship
First of all, before you get involved in a long distance
relationship, ask yourself if you can endure a long distance
relationship.
The same question must be asked to your partner as well. If both of
you think that you can survive a long distance relationship, you are one
step further to your long distance love affair. However, if this
question alone bothers you or your partner, you have a lesser chance to
survive a long distance relationship.
Advantages of Long Distance Relationships
But even if long distance relationships sometimes do not work, there
are some cases that it becomes an advantage to both parties. Do you know
the old saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder? If you are away
from your partner you will not easily get bore with the relationship.
Your partner’s absence would make you miss him or her more. You will
prove to yourself and to everybody else that you don’t need to be
physically present just to say that you are in love. And every time that
you see each other, you will create tons of memories that would last for
long. You will look forward in creating your new memories together. It
really is difficult to miss their touch or their kiss. But by the time
that you do it again, it would be much more meaningful for the both of
you.
According to the couples who are involved in a long distance
relationship, this kind of set up allowed them to know their partners on
a deeper level. When they were still living a few blocks away from each
other, they do spend time together but rarely get the chance to talk
about themselves. However, when their long distance relationship started
they got the chance to communicate and talk more intimately. Every time
they are on the phone, no one can distract their discussions. They knew
more about each other, about their dreams, and what do they want to
happen in the relationship in the near future.
Disadvantages of Long Distance Relationships
Unfortunately, long distance relationships also have its
disadvantages. You have to deal with loneliness, which is considered as
one of the main reasons why most long distance relationship fails. Apart
from your special someone, you are also away from your long time friends
which makes things harder for you. Because of this, you might think of
ways on how to doff the loneliness and the stress in your relationship.
If you are not dedicated on would not stay strong in your relationship,
there is a possibility that you might give in to the temptations around
you.
Common Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Don't Work
- One or both partners are unable to commit to a relationship
where they can't physically spend time together often, and in the
end this dissolves the relationship
- The partners are simply not suited to each other
- The feeling of loneliness becomes too hard to bare by either or
both partners
- Insecurities felt by either partner
Advice on Making Your Long Distance Relationship Work!
- Talk to each other frequently
- Make an especial effort to go and see each other - save up, take
holidays etc!
- Make a big deal about each other's birthdays, or any day, for no
particular reason! Send each other presents and messages.
- As said earlier, one of the great advantages of long distance
relationships is that because you are on the phone/ Skype all the
time, you inevitably start to share deep information about yourself
- much sooner than you would if you were in a 'short distance
relationship'. In this way you can really get to know each other.
So some good advice is to think about what you want in a life-long
relationship and partner, and find out if they have the same ideals
and personal qualities that you are looking for.
- Some partners may need you to reassure them that you love them
as the physical separation can make them feel insecure. So a good
tip is to take time to reaffirm how much you love them, and how much
they mean to you.
- At some stage, if you really want the relationship to progress
(and to see if it will actually work), one of you will have to make
the decision to move to where the other person is. This should be
seen as a good test to see if you can get along together! Without
this period of time, you won't know if you can be together.
Words of Caution About Some Long Distance Relationships
Unfortunately, in today's day and age, there are people out there who
are scammers. As much as you think it would never happen to you, you may
never know.
For example, there have been several cases of women in India
pretending to be in love with people from countries overseas, as a ploy
to extort money from their trusting partners, or in order to try and
gain entry into a foreign country.
It's difficult to know when you are being duped - especially when you
are so in love with someone. But just be cautious - alarm bells should
start to ring if they are really hounding you about sending them money,
or suddenly become cool, or change their mind about you because you
don't give them something material. These people are really nasty, and
you should break away from them immediately. |
